“I’ve always wanted to do that!”

Let’s talk about goals, and bucket lists, and all that jazz.  I know a lot of you are moms with school aged kids, and believe me I know that those years seem endless, but they rush by too.

What have you always wanted to do, but never made the time, or had the courage to do?

When I talk to ladies about doing a boudoir session, the comment I hear most is “I’ve always wanted to do that!”….but…… insert many lines.

I think there comes a time when you realize that you have to do something for yourself.  I came to be a parent later than most, in my 30’s, and maybe that is why I started out taking time for myself right away, after the kids were born.  You need to take care of yourself, face it, You are the only one who will!

I am one of the only handful of boudoir photographers in Topeka, and one of the very few female boudoir photographers.  I have a studio set up in an office building.  It’s private, but public.  I offer phone or in person consults, so that you can get all questions answered, there is no obligation to book when you do a consult.  I feel like you will definitely want to book, but that’s just me, lol.

Whatever it is, large or small, do something for yourself today, something you’ve always thought about!  Take the time today!

Carol

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I’m on a journey too!

Hello, and Happy Monday!  I just wanted to quickly share my new ‘journey’.  When I work with boudoir clients, so often we talk about our weight and our body image.  It is the #1 reason ladies don’t want to have a session experience!  I get that, but I also talk to them about how we should be comfortable in our own skin….and sometimes we need to go ahead and do the things we fear!  That makes it so worth it!

I have decided it is time to lose some weight.  I have made small attempts over the past 5 years or so, but nothing has worked or stuck.  I am still trying to come up with the best method to be accountable, but I think I am still tweaking.

I am firmly working on my health, first and foremost.  I know that excess weight works against us in many ways.  I am of the age where it all can start working against me, so it is very important to me to really start taking care of the excess weight.

Now, I am going to put this into ‘print’.  My goal is to lose 30 pounds, and as of now I am at around 3 pounds lost.  I am hoping that there will be a lot less of me this Christmas!  Feel free to encourage me!!!   I am not shy about sharing this, and I am constantly working with anyone, personally or professionally with my boudoir clients; to listen and help in any way they need.  I am a listening ear only, I am not an advice person…

Here’s to you and any journey that you might be on!  You’ve got this!!!

What is your ‘why’?

There are many reasons to have a boudoir session done.

Starting the journey, first we talk.

The stories I have heard…ladies who have never  felt beautiful….ladies who have had breast cancer and need to get that sexy back after the long hard battle….ladies who have lost a good amount of weight and want to celebrate…brides to gift their soon to be spouse with an awesome gift…a gift for those married couples who know the long term commitment it takes to stay close for many years.  Perhaps the saddest ‘why’ story was having a ‘significant other’ who daily told this lady that she was ugly…She stood up to that person  – got out and did many things to heal.

One of which was have a boudoir session done.

Boudoir isn’t just a portrait session to get photos done.  It is a journey, an event,  a time period of a number of weeks where you pamper yourself, daydream of your fantasy or your reality and your ‘why’.  We do good work, and then you see the images of the best of you.  You feel the confidence soar, and know that you are strong, and that you can do anything.  Even things that  used to scare you.

This Guy

 

Okay, so you rarely ‘see’ me here….This is my husband Bill, and I, last fall while we were doing family portraits.

It occurred to me today that I wanted to celebrate my husband.  Now I know all the little things that I do to keep all the balls up in the air for our family…it got me to thinking that I bet he does a million little things too!

We met at Bill’s front door some 25 years ago.  He shook my hand in greeting, and my knees literally went weak.  We slowly became friends, dated…and then realized that this was the partner we had been looking for.  We will celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary in September.

I am the social media person in our family.  Part of that is because I do it for business too.  So…I post about our children…a lot.  When I post about their accomplishments, I usually get the compliments.  Well, let me tell you, their dad was there every step of the way; in his own way.  Showing them by example how to be a kind, respectful man.  Being gentle with them after his own not-so-gentle upbringing…

Bill Myers, I celebrate you today for the funny, honest, silly, good, kind, decent, respectful, hunky, sweet, loving, wonderful man that you are.  There is no one that I would rather spend forever with than you.

Courageous

Interesting blog post so far, wouldn’t you say?  I assume you know a few or many ladies who are courageous?  I am here today, well every day, to celebrate women.  In looking back at my recent images over the last few years, I got to thinking about courage, and it’s many forms.

The beauty to the upper right is my mother in her early adulthood.  She was a strong woman – twice cancer survivor, mother to 5, one of which she lost at 3 days old; she was a great one for sayings….you know ‘The early bird gets the worm”  that type.  Her saying that I try to live by most is “I’ll just take what comes ”  .  Her strength and courage helped  her thru 93 years on this earth.

Many of my ladies who come to me for boudoir sessions, are military wives.  Now this lady isn’t pictured here, but I have one recent lady in mind who works beyond full time, her hubby is deployed out of the country, and she has small children.  Her daily life must be so hectic, but she does it all with such courage.

My image at the bottom, is a sweet one and special to me.  You all know by now that I’m an animal lover…This lady brought her sweet old dog in for a session.  Unfortunately, we knew the dog was nearing the end of her life.  The courage to face the death of a loved one, and pets included…is some of the hardest courage to muster!  You can literally feel the hole in your heart…

Courage takes on my faces. I am here to lift up and praise all women with courage…small strides, nerves, illness, death….facing it all with courage is our daily task as a woman!  I will go out today and lift someone and hopefully make their task easier.  Peace.

Carol

Private NOT Hiding

Yes, that is a strange title for this post.  It occurred to me the other day that this is what I was thinking about when I split my Memory Makers Photography Facebook page into Memory Makers and Flirt Boudoir by Carol.  Much of my philosophy of boudoir is to empower and help women to see the light they bring to the world, and to not hide that light!  I do not want anyone to feel that I am hiding my boudoir images or that anyone should be embarrassed or ashamed to see them; worse yet ashamed of their feelings or their bodies.

For me, this was a business decision.  That is about where my ‘business’ mind ends.  My emotional self takes over, and I love doing all things boudoir!  Talking, planning, listening, feeling good helping others…I go with what every single individual lady feels at the moment…She wants to be the only person to see these images besides me – fine.  She wants only herself and partner to see them – that is your prerogative.  Then there are the ever increasing group of ladies who -after the shoot- say “I love these so much, you can show them all!”  Their feelings, emotions, and self-esteem are the most important things to me when I work with ladies!

If you desire to indulge yourself and have a boudoir session done, call or message me today, and we will meet to discuss all things boudoir.  You feelings and emotions will drive what we do and how we proceed!  Go for it!

Carol

The BFF Contest is back!

Be sure to contact me via email, phone, text, Facebook message any way you can!  This rescue is so great for our city, they help the dogs that are without a home…whether their owner can no longer take care of them, or a dog might be pulled from a shelter.  All dogs are in foster care, so they are settled and many times are being trained as they are in foster care.

This is a super opportunity to get your beloved pets photographed so that they can stay safe in your memory forever!  Thank you!

Be brave enough to take this flight!

I don’t mind flying, really.  Sometime early into my adulthood, I discovered that I had all of a sudden developed a fear of heights.  Fast forward years later, our family was vacationing in Branson.  The kids wanted to go ziplining, and they wanted Mom to go too!  I said I would try but might chicken out!

I kept pushing and pushing myself, I climbed up an outdoor spiral staircase!  Eek!  I had my first flight…so far so good.  Each new flight was scary, but I kept at it.  Then came the rope bridge….oh my…..

All of a sudden, the trip was over, I was on the ground.  I was so proud of myself…it had been amazing to soar as only a bird can and feel the air rushing past!

I felt then that I could do anything, and at that moment made the decision to go ahead with my dream of opening a studio location again after 17 years…Also to specialize in boudoir photography at that location.

My son gave me this plaque to always remind me of our flight, and triumph.  I want to help others to soar, and take the risk of trying something scary, but oh so well worth it!  That is what I see the women who have a boudoir session come to realize.  Through the process, they can do something that is maybe a stretch out of their comfort zone, but afterwards the confidence emerges!  So awesome to see!

What is your definition of success?

Happy New Year!  Whew, I am maybe a tad late here on the 14th day of 2019….I had a fantastic fall and Christmas season, completing my first 6 months in the new studio.  On December 28th, my family and oh some 150 other people took off in Arrow buses for Florida!  We were part of the amazing Outback Bowl competition that Topeka West Charger Band participated in.  Tiring, but amazing!

My definition of success has changed over the years.  As a 20-something, I looked up to older photographers who seemed to always be busy.  That was success, having sessions booked every day of the week.  Busy was success!  It got muddy in my 30’s, I became a mom, worked less, and worried more.  How could I be a success, and not be working the business very much?

Coming full circle now – I have a studio location again after 18 years working from the house.  I had a fantastic first 6 months, and I do not work every day of the week.  Am I successful?  YOU BET!  To me, success is what you make it.  It isn’t a sales figure, or how full time you are, or how many sessions you do a year.  It is how I feel…I have created a good business in a new location, there is a buzz about my boudoir business, and I FEEL GOOD!!!  I am successful!

Here’s to all those out there struggling with identity in business…I wish you success.  Look deep and figure out what success is to you.  Then go for it!